You know, it’s the 21st century…

I just came out to my very sexual cousin, who is also a female and who is about my age, 29.

She LAUGHED at me when I told her I was a virgin. “It’s the 21st century and you are a virgin?”

I swear I wanted to punch her soo hard… but I just explained her what asexuality was about. She’s a psychiatrist and at first she related it to some kind ot fear of sex. But I managed to explain her all the different flavors of asexuality, how some of us are repulsed, some curious, and some even sexually active.

At the end she was kind of interested.

But I have still that feeling of unease to have come out at someone who didn’t believe me and who actually asked if I was serious. That’s very, very upsetting. I guess I should become used to it.

Still it hurts, and even though she was very understanding, the whole experience left me wanting to move oceans and tides to scream the world about asexuality SOOOOO LOUD. I even twitted the whole thing…. and I am not embarrased.

Oh, well….

Just needed to get this out of my chest. This really upset me. Seriously, people can be so ignorant! You should never laugh ar someone else’s sexual orientation. After all, it’s the 21st century.



  1. tofindmywings said,

    September 14, 2009 at 11:29 am

    I totally feel for you, it’s awful that someone in your family should react like that. Just because it’s the 21st century and sex is everywhere does not mean everyone should be doing it.
    Although, it’s possible that she just didn’t know how to react – sometimes when something’s hard to react to people just laugh. Still, she could have been more sensitive. As you say, people shouldn’t be so ignorant in these days.

  2. Anonymous said,

    April 27, 2010 at 5:01 pm

    I told two friends, both of whom I figured already had enough indicators to know I am asexual. One of my friends was very understanding, but the other – disappointingly – did not take me seriously. I didn’t realize that I would so upset at his reaction. Given the lack of awareness about asexuality, though, I don’t really know if I can get too angry at his reaction. Hopefully things will change as awareness increases.

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